Girl If You Can Do These 2 Things When Your Boyfri`end Che`ats I Sw`ear He Will Not Che`at On You Again

Do yourself a favor and do not listen to outaide advice. Here are 2 things you absolutely not

do if your boyfriend che`ats on you:


1. Take the blame. The article starts out by letting readers know that the reason your partner che`ated on you is because YOU are doing something wrong. Yes, you, the victim of betrayal. He didn’t ch`eat because he has no willpower, or because he’s too selfish to treat you with the respect you deserve – no, he cheated because you did something to make him che`at. Basically, this is your fault, and you need to fix the situation, not him.
Um, no.
Listen, I agree that it usually takes two people to destroy a relationship. It would be unfair to blame a ruined relationship on just one person, because dating is a two-way stree t and all that. But if your BF che`ated, he made that decision. Nothing you did forced him into that situation. Maybe you did things that made him angry or upset, but he is the only one in control of his actions, and he could have handled things in a different, better, way . If he ch`eats on you, please for the love of God do not blame yourself. If he was that unhappy, he should have communicated with you – not hooked up with another person. He needs to take responsibility for his actions, not you.
2. YOU need to apologize, not him. Again, the author assumes that your boyfriend che`ated on you because you’re a terrible, annoying girlfriend who is always criticizing her sensitive man. Ugh, girlfriends. Aren’t we just the worst? The author reminds us that you are the one who needs to change. He encourages you, as the reader, to apologize to your BF for “taking him for granted,” “nagging” him too often, and “complaining” too much. He basically reinforces the stereotype that, as girlfriends or wives, wo.men spend all of their time nagging and being dried up, angry, bitter prunes.
Here’s a thought: maybe that girlfriend is “nagging” and “complaining” because her boyfriend sucks. Because if he cheated, and expects an apology from YOU, he sounds like he kind of su`cks. When your BF che`ats, he is the only one who should be apologizing. He did something wrong here. He went behind your back and betrayed you. It’s insane to act like a wo.man can’t speak up about what a guy is doing wrong (or in the words of this author, nagging and complaining), or he’ll cheat on her because she’s being annoying . Again, if this guy was that unhappy, he should have spoken up instead of che`ating.